Blog-a-thon 2006: Desicritics on Sexual/Street Harassment

Why Do Some Men Think It's All Right to Harass Women and Girls?

I think I know the answer to that question. Most men think of women as merely sex symbols and not as equal individuals such an attitude I feel is the source of all such haressment.

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It sucks when it comes to treating divorced women.

Believe me.

Taking care of a broken heart is one and then to deal with cracked up insensitive people is no fun.

Akshay and Preeti, thank you for your comments.

I think the police and the legal system is the problem here.

If women acting in self-defence were to shoot/stab/taze these guys - the law should be on the side of the woman.

Anyway I think there is a huge distributorship market in India for TAZERS - and we should legalise it for women.

See Videos of what TAZERS can do:

http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=-4909869833343222308&q=tazer

http://video.google.com/videosearch?q=tazer


We should stop the humiliation of our women, by impotent ugly men.

I think men harass women because they can get away with it. They feel like animals, and like the biggest men around, if they get to get away with it.

Let's face it, in primal days the biggest men raped all the women, because they could.

We need to educate the genteel, landed, middle-class of India to the culture of guns. And why it is decent/moral/righteous to defend your freedom, pride and dignity when it under attack.

when so called better days existed, all people associated with me would talk how divorced people need a break and did not be discriminated....

But when it comes to practice, its another attitude altogether.

The same people one use to hang around with, have nothing to do with you anymore and treat you like some bad 'omen'.

If a divorced women wants to look 'nice' or dresses up 'nice' , people are quick to jump to a conclusion that she is luring other men!!!!!

Comon give divorced women a break, what do you want them to wear...a burkha??

Sujatha, pretty decent attempt to unravel the sexual orientation of a man. I am afraid, you, or for that matter, any of the commentators are not even close to reality.

The expectation of males and females to be equal, for at least mentally, if not physically, is the main cause of repeated failures to understand sexual orientation of males and females. Males and females can never be equal. If a man courageously admits that he is unable to understand a woman, why is it so hard for women to admit that they are not able to understand a man? Why?

First, understand the sexual orientation of both, and then not only your contention will be appreciated but other ignorant buffoons will also understand.
Now read this very carefully. However, if you do not "want" to understand, then its not my fault.

A man feels sexual pleasure. A woman thinks sexual pleasure. A man estimates his sexual pleasure with the aid of his eyes, they are visual. A woman estimates her sexual pleasure with the aid of reading books or talking, they are more verbal. You can't expect a man to be not visual. Then probably the attraction toward the opposite sex will no longer exists. Why do women wear skimpy clothes? Because they know men will admire them, they know men will not try to understand her the way she would understand a man approaching her. And if a man begins to understand a woman the way women understand men, well, then there will be no room for love between the two. A man is 'suppose' to be visual and a woman is 'suppose' to be verbal. This is the laws of nature.

Just imagine, if a man becomes the way you, or any woman want, he will not even get attracted nor aroused or even be interested in a woman who is standing nude in front of him inviting him to pleasure-up, irrespective of the relation between the two. Now, you know, I know and everybody knows, a woman surely does not want that to happen. As long as man is feeling sexual pleasure, he is a sexual being. But if he begins to 'think' sexual pleasure, like women do, he will become a asexual. Please understand, man's sexual orientation is visual and woman's sexual orientation is verbal.

You can't blame the whole male gender mentality by looking at few goons on the streets whose sexual orientation is much stronger than their character. And if you do, then I am afraid, I will fiercely object. Kindly leave the comprehension of a male gender mentality to a man only, a woman would be rather comfortable uncovering the female gender mentality. Please, your presumption is doing more harm than good in a general way, probably it will fuel the fire of hatred toward male gender. Besides, our society have always been following outdated tradition that as long as a woman hates men, her dignity, modesty and chastity is protected and the society must respect her.

Having said this, I totally dislike such eve/adam teasing or sexual harassment.

Socio, well said...

But your speculative statements about men being 'visual' and women being 'verbal' are mere private hypotheses, based maybe on private observations, introspection. We have 1000's of such speculative models and hypotheses of human behavior. We need more Research here than speculation.

In Reality, it is not so clearly cut-out and defined. And your characterisation is at times pretty simplistic and crude, even for personal observations. Reality seems much more nuanced than that.

And, I agree with you, let us not criticise Men for seeking pleasure. But if he values his own pleasure over proper behavior in a community, he is asking to be cut-to-size/and will be.

Sexual/Street Harassment...!!!!

Does only Women suffer this?
Some one will say "Yes"..

Why only women suffer this?
Some one will say all men are animal..

Any type of Harassment faced by both Men as well as Women- This will be termed as Black or Greay lie....

Difference, when a Women face the Harassment that is called crime.
and
When a man face the same in the hand of a women that is called Love, date, self protection, good job by women and all the goverment award given to those women.

Next, How many time you saw a women doing Harassment in a street or public place?
Every one will say: Never!!!

What some people do not know, A women have the whole sale free lincence to do any type of Harassment at in her own room/location/bedroom in open light, as the same is not a crime, that is called love and enjoyment.

Wonder, some people bron as blind and some people made blind by so called MEN heater...

Will this going to improve the situation or will increse the Harassment activity ?

HATE OBC, can I not say the same about the article written on men? Yes, I 'can'. I 'can' say that the perception of the writer, Sujatha in this case, is preconceived and self-righteous. Why would a woman say, "All men are alike, there is nothing else on their mind except sex"? Maybe because the woman who said this must have had an experience, not necessarily actual, but her inane interpretation about a situation drived her to this conclusion. This statement does not end here. This statement of a woman, any woman for that matter, is globalized to an extent that a woman who had had no such interpretation of this kind would involuntarily accept it as true and must be applicable in her life too. And this way, few women's inane interpretation, who are bold enough to voice their conclusion, becomes globalized and every tom, dick and harry follows it considering it to be more than a mere personal hypothesis. Is this not possible? Logically, if my interpretation is likely to be a mere personal hypothesis, according to you, then is there any reason why the interpretation in the above case can't be a personal hypothesis too? And If it can, then why in the world people over here choose to even consider reading this piece of article so seriously knowing that this is a mere personal hypothesis? And if it is not, then are we just hovering around over a speculative model or actual research? Who can say that?

Well, HATE OBC, What is speculation? Every reseach that has been approved began with a speculation. When you are dealing with the sentiments or opinions of people, it would be a mistake to talk about 'reality'. Reality is relative. And that is why there are, as you said, more than 1000 such speculative models, each trying to come the closest to reality, yet not close enough. I 'can' prove that my so-called personal hypothesis isn't mere personal hypothesis.

I 'can' say that the perception of the writer, Sujatha in this case, is preconceived and self-righteous. Why would a woman say, "All men are alike, there is nothing else on their mind except sex"?

Really? Where do I say that?

"I think I know the answer to that question. Most men think of women as merely sex symbols "

Uncle,have you ever tired to get the answer from any Auntie?

Are you sure, they think in the different way as you described..Sex product..

Wonder, Malika, Rekha, Sushmita, Bipsha...long list.. what they try to teach is a white, Black or Greay lie...

"Really? Where do I say that?"

That is the art our Indian Auntie's have, a lot of Indian Uncle still had not able learn, "without telling a word, a lot had been told..."

And poor Uncle's had been traped in the net and termed as a Master of Sexual/Street Harassment.

Well, HATE OBC, What is speculation? Every reseach that has been approved began with a speculation. Sure.

And, Sujatha posed some rhetorical questions suggesting some answers. She does not firmly asseverate as you do.

She seeks answers, perhaps holding onto a bias borne out of personal experience, but she is asking other for their opinion.

You ARE providing your opinion. Just stop pontificating; everybody's experiences are equally valid. How do you know all men are 'visual' and all women are 'verbal' or some crap like that. Put your own personal speculation in some modest context.

If you want something to stop, you should react first. Just like men(and his family which includes women too) react to legal harassment by their wives.

Socioliogist...what a sham!
As if a sociologist would ever call her/himself that..
Next time use the nick 'Doctor' to post some medical advice [EDITED].

Aaman,

A few days back you asked me if I would like to be a blogger at desicritics...well, on my behalf, our honorable HATE OBCS has given the answer.


Goodbye...........

P.S: Deleting or editing comments won't do any good.

Sociologist, a thicker skin is necessary on the Web to deal with the pinpricks of the weak-minded. Stick around, and do sign up, if you like.

One idea...

Every one should have a Licence to travel in Bus/train/taxi/auto, for visiting shopping mall/public place, working in offices..etc the way Driving Lincence issued along with terms and condition.

If any one violated that, the lincence will be cancelled like 2 times or three times.

Now if any accident happened, we can go for insurence and if any thing done knowingly, insurence company will reject the claim.

What do you think auntie about such Model system?

Further to my dearest Socie uncle, in addition to Aamman uncle advice for little thick-snik..

OBC's are not a Human, which you might have not understand and they deserve to hate...

Good, it proves the logic of Ms. Sobha dadi, Indian men are still in 16th century, but if she see this " HATE OBC" word, I don't know she may say Indian men are staying 26th Century...

But care full, ask my meera didi, this comes under the crime of IPC section if I am right 153..