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Comment by Sumanth

Sat, 11 Sep 2010 01:28:52 EDT

Girls outperforming boys is considered a very positive news by media and Indian society. 40% graduates being boys is considered positive by Canadian society. Men having less jobs than women is considered positive by American society. Yet, men get jailed if they fail to pay child support after loss of job in India or in US. The feminism is worse than Nazism.

Comment by Sumanth

Sat, 11 Sep 2010 01:09:45 EDT

Do gender stereotypes always benefit boys and discriminate girls? Feminists again believe so and do not stop even discriminating their own children due to their selfishness. Before a mother tells her son to do household chores, she must stop doing following: 1) She must stop using the boy as unpaid bodyguard for herself or other girls or women. She must stop telling her 10 year old son,"Beta, please leave aunty at her home as it is getting dark". 2) She must stop sending her 10 or 12 year old son to vegetable markets to buy vegetables. 3) She must not dump her emotions of victimhood and sorrows and tears on the 10 or 12 year old sons. 4) She must stop using her son as a coolie when they shift their house. 5) She must deny any neighbour asking help from her son when there is an medical emergency. Sons are not medical attendants. 6) She must make sure that son is not emotionally castrated so that the son can cry even in open like a girl even when he is 15. When feminist moms think they are experts in breaking gender stereotypes, then they should take full responsibility and complete ending all gender stereotypes. ====== This selfish discrimination of boys by feminist mothers is not a new phenomenon. It has been happening since 70s and 80s. Indian men, unlike German or American men are yet to realise that "Mother can be a Bitch" as they are still brainwashed by religion that "Mother is a Goddess". Once discrimination happens to a boy at childhood, there is no way that discrimination can be undone, not matter how many times these mothers later appologize to their grown up sons. This is a big topic worth a complete article in short and a book at most.

Comment by RESTLESS MIND

Fri, 10 Sep 2010 00:34:59 EDT

Solution 101 I do not like it when parents discourage their sons to do household chores, even very small, because they think it's not a man's job and hence the gender stereotyping starts at and early age. hope u got the answer. Ah, I see, it is their dislike and it is ok for a boy to say that!!! Does such a choice available to a girl? "If you have problem finding a man who does not do household chores, simply Marry down or even simpler Do not marry!.Why do you want to change others? Is not that Freedom/Liberty 101?" I FEEL THIS IS A PERSONAL COMMENT. WHO ARE YOU TO TELL ME THIS? WE ARE ONLY HAVING A GENERAL DISCUSSION HERE. DO NOT GET PERSONAL. GOT THAT?

Comment by RESTLESS MIND

Fri, 10 Sep 2010 00:22:12 EDT

SLIME DON'T GET PERSONAL.

Comment by Solution101

Thu, 9 Sep 2010 11:39:46 EDT

What exactly is your issue? a) Girls being taught household chores. or b) Boys not being taught household chores? if it is a) then you are being stupid because if you have to survive independently, you got to learn those chores. if it is b) then you should consider that as discrimination against boys. As far as boys/men not wanting to do household chores, well they are are entitled to dislike whatever they can. If you have problem finding a man who does not do household chores, simply Marry down or even simpler Do not marry!.Why do you want to change others? Is not that Freedom/Liberty 101?

Comment by Slime

Thu, 9 Sep 2010 06:57:51 EDT

Restless , You answered your confusion yourself. I think you stop making Maggi and ask your husband and son to do so! Please do that and then read the post again and my comments to end your confused state

Comment by RESTLESS MIND

Thu, 9 Sep 2010 04:52:35 EDT

Sumanth! "Its shocking that you are talking about drilling these judgments into a child's mind (your own son) so early in his life in another article." I am laughing!!!! I only taught my son about the role of sense organs in human body and REST IS WHAT WENT THROUGH MY MIND !!! Phew!!! LOL! "Tell me, why male children stop crying at the age of 7 or 8? Who emotionally suppresses them?" Do you know something? For me, a man's ability to cry, literally cry shows how much he is in touch with himself, for me a man's expression of grief is, something like showing his sensitive and humane side. And I appreciate it anyday. Boys stop crying, or expressing grief, because of social conditioning. The same social conditioning, which tells them look you are a man ( so don't cry) and look you are a man, so this is how you should be, these are the gender roles u have to play and these are the things you need not do ( read ur sister will do that for you, those domestic works)). that very social conditioning, starting from parents, makes a MALE a MAN. We are the society, so YES, we as parents, women as mothers have to stop telling their sons that they are better than girls or they need not learn to wash that handky of theirs or should not learn to prepare something like quick simple dish like Maggi. But do we parents not stereo type the roles there??? Please answer me Sumanth.

Comment by RESTLESS MIND

Thu, 9 Sep 2010 04:42:00 EDT

OMG Sumanth! Is something wrong with you??!!!! Being a child, means staying in touch with one's simple beautiful self. And my opinion about gender issues is my opinion. Period. waht's the confusion??!!!!! I think aggressive is a smaller word for you! Did u even read that post " sense and sensibility- are we losing it"?! You seem to have read a few lines in the beginning and a few in the end and you are talking as if there can be nobody who can have differnt perceptions than you!!!! It seems you met all women, who were very submissive and could not say what they thought!

Comment by RESTLESS MIND

Thu, 9 Sep 2010 04:29:59 EDT

Sumanth For the first time I agree with you! Two wrongs cannot make one right. so true. I am not against men, their growth or development or their rights. I know being a man is also difficult, balancing so many things is hard. And, it would be kiddish to even think that if men will suffer and women will win all the gender battles, the world would be a better place to live. NO. Its wrong. Balance and harmony. Respect and equality is what i dream of, when it comes to gender issues.

Comment by RESTLESS MIND

Thu, 9 Sep 2010 04:25:14 EDT

Sumanth, How can I like it, if boys and men will suffer in the society? How can we like it when our father or brother or son suffers? Am not so narrowminded to think like this. If u want to close your eyes to the fact that women suffer in our society, then u r free to do so.

Comment by RESTLESS MIND

Thu, 9 Sep 2010 04:15:21 EDT

Hey Slime! u r confused man! Read the post and thread again and then reply. Thank you. RESTLESS

Comment by Sumanth

Wed, 8 Sep 2010 10:53:06 EDT

"Being as innocent as a child does not mean being STUPID, it absolutely does not mean taking sh*t from anyone," Being like a child means being non-judgmental like a child. It is plain hypocrisy and stupidity, when one urges the readers to discover a child within themselves and then goes on to paint the world black and white and passes wild judgments (boys are pampered and girls are discriminated) in the same post. You can call me aggressive, because (I am sure) no man ever really questioned you or your methods. Its shocking that you are talking about drilling these judgments into a child's mind (your own son) so early in his life in another article. Tell me, why male children stop crying at the age of 7 or 8? Who emotionally suppresses them? If you stop throwing shit at others, then others will not throw shit on you. And Radical Feminism is plain shit. I am ready to wrestle in shit.

Comment by Sumanth

Wed, 8 Sep 2010 08:02:41 EDT

RESTLESS MIND, When there is gender based suffering of men, then it can be justified as "mere" occupational hazard or it can be attributed to big fat male ego and when there is gender based sufferings of women, then it is a huge social issue. Do not talk about the things that have not happened. Do not claim that there is some glass ceiling for women for being a porter or a coolie. May be the issue of female foeticide is real, but the methods used to stop it are negative. Hating men/boys and calling for their discrimination will not solve women's problems. Two wrongs do not make one right.

Comment by Sumanth

Wed, 8 Sep 2010 07:51:09 EDT

RESTLESS MIND, So, when one hates men and talks about discriminating boys, then that is not aggressive talk. Only when one opposes this hatred and says that sufferings have no gender, then one becomes aggressive. What a logic? What do you want? Boys to be discriminated in families and in schools so that they start dropping out of education and job market? Do not worry. Boys have already started under performing because of discrimination in our schooling system in urban India and our media is very happy about it. When the school drop out and jobless young men and crime increases in the society, people like you will certainly celebrate. I have already said, there is no justification for hatred against men/boys even if there was/is discrimination against women/girls. If you continue seeing the world in black and white, ie. Girls are discriminated in families and boys are pampered, then you can keep it as your personal view and stop imposing it in broadcasting mediums. According to world health organisation, 53% boys and 47% girls in India are abused by parents (mostly mother). May be you should celebrate at this news that more boys are getting abused.

Comment by Slime

Wed, 8 Sep 2010 02:25:49 EDT

Restless, your intentions are right. Lets look at the posting by #9 under GM name. Is that not hatred, then using OJ. What about shiney? what about Col Nanda? Women are indeed restless to show their innocence. Look at the suicide stats of men. Look at the avg life expectancy of men. Yes you call it cooked. That itself shows your hatred.

Comment by RESTLESS MIND

Wed, 8 Sep 2010 01:45:52 EDT

@ Gorky Maksim - I am sure you said that to Sumanth!!! Hey, creating fake names, but leaving real IDs is better than creating real (sounding) names and leaving no URL !!! At least, I dare to say that my name is fake, what if i used any Indian girl's name, people like you would have been happy then, right?! AND GORKY, PLEASE MIND YOUR LANGUAGE. DON'T TAKE THE NAME desiCRITICS TOO SERIOUSLY. RESTLESS DOESNOT NEED YOUR ADVISE WHETHER TO LEAVE THIS FORUM OR NOT. GOT IT?

Comment by RESTLESS MIND

Wed, 8 Sep 2010 01:40:12 EDT

@ Sumanth - Being as innocent as a child doesnot mean being STUPID, it absolutely doesnot mean taking sh*t from anyone, including an aggressive and enlightenend reader. I donot understand why are you so angry with people who want to say, YES, there is discrimination in the Indian society against women, girls. At least you boys are welcome, when u r born, girls in so many states of the country do not see the light of the day, just because of thier anatomy, u got that?? Why men only die as coolies and what nots u have mentioned, my dear, women are slowly breaking those glass ceilings, and would be working as porters too, a profession of men for ages, and then the casualty of women would also be there. These are occupational hazards, don't confuse them. On road accidents, dear Sumanth, i am so bad with statistics and am just throwing some cooked up theories on Desicritics, then you tell me what is the proportion of men and women drivers (personal and commercial) in India?!!!!! Talk of proportions sir! Did I say, why women only die giving birth to kids?!! why don't the men also do a sati/sata when their wives die during labour or of malnutriion?!!!! so don't waste your energies in telling yourself that sufferings are NOT gender based. RESTLESS MIND

Comment by Gorky Maksim

Mon, 6 Sep 2010 13:05:22 EDT

You are the sexist lonely poor soul. Now go...BOOOOO...and take your lost agenda somewhere else. Your talks are all lies--its like OJ Simpson telling he is innocent. People with a police records have no credibility and the ones who hide under fake names.

Comment by Sumanth

Mon, 6 Sep 2010 08:08:39 EDT

"it is not about hate, or generating hate but about being innocent as a child." "Boys are not born with a violent gene Mr, but it is the social conditioning which makes their egos swell with pride of being born as a male." On one hand you talk about being innocent as a child and on other hand you make sweeping generalisations about male ego, which has absolutely no scientific basis. So, you just like Amit believe that its the big fat ego that makes men commit suicide. Then, does that big fat ego make men coolies and rickshaw pullers? 4 times more men compared to women die in accidents. Why do not you and your great macho friend Amit claim that this kind of "male disposability" is also due to male ego? Speaking about women's issues is not same as hating men. However, you made specific and very opinionated strong references towards boys. What will you achieve out of this gender war? Nothing positive. You have picked up some jargon from Zen and other ontological literature and throwing it on us here without really practicing it. If you had, then you would not have used the name "RESTLESS MIND" in the first place and would not have been so opinionated about the issues. I am concerned about human problems. I do not think problems and sufferings have any gender. The pain of a mother or sister whose brother has committed suicide is no less than the pain of a mother or father whose daughter has committed suicide. I am against assigning genders to human sufferings and I will oppose anyone who indulges in generating and propagating hate against men and boys using some pseudo-science and fake statistics.

Comment by RESTLESS MIND

Mon, 6 Sep 2010 03:17:23 EDT

@ Sumanth - First thing first, my username is RESTLESS MIND, and I donot accept any other name from anyone. Talk about the post and not about the author. do not give your judgements on people and their perceptions and the sources from where they gather information. Second, you have ignored the main issue of the post that is, being in touch with oneself and connecting with that innocent self in ourselves, and rather you choose to pick up one line and talk and blame about it. Shows your bent of mind. Anyways, when small boys work in roadside dhabas, small girls are pushed in prostitution. While men die on roads, women die during childbirths, and other sexual assaults, ever read that? If you read the post again, you will see, it is not about hate, or generating hate but about being innocent as a child. Boys are not born with a violent gene Mr, but it is the social conditioning which makes their egos swell with pride of being born as a male, don't want to say anything more here. By the way, your aggressive way of writing just proves, what I said in the last para. It was expected from an Indian man. @ Amit - I see logic in what you wrote, in fact, i wrote on the same lines. By supporting women's cause or women's rights, one doesnot became a MAN HATER, rather it shows, he is mature and doesnot feel threatened by WOMEN. So, very much a MACHO. Keep it up Amit. And pl do not be harsh, we can say the same thing in a polite manner also. Thanks for your comments! RESTLESS MIND

Comment by RESTLESS MIND

Mon, 6 Sep 2010 02:48:29 EDT

@ Being cynical - Left u high and dry?! Well, may be!

Comment by Sumanth

Sun, 5 Sep 2010 23:08:30 EDT

Men like Amit, for all their hatred for Men, should read: http://www.poemhunter.com/poem/inchcape-rock/