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Book Review: The Poison Tree - Planted and Grown in Egypt

October 06, 2009
Kim

A friend sent me the link to this yesterday. The Poison Tree is legally donwloadable for free from Marwa Rakha's own website. While currently available in English, she promises that the Arabic translation too will soon be online.

The book is written in a semi disjointed "part blog-part diary-part letter" fashion and someone who is used to a structured flow when reading, may start out feeling a bit disconcerted. But if you persevere you can gain some insights into Egytian culture, sexuality, morality and society. The unifying theme of the book revolves around gender stereotypes, dating and marriage and how men and women are held to different standards in society. While this may be true across the world, it is more pronounced in Egypt.

I often wondered how so many Egyptian friends and acquaintances kept ending up divorced within barely a year or two of marriage, sometimes with new born kids who were not even a year old. Some have ended up remarrying men who had been unfaithful to them during their first attempt at marriage. This being a very sensitive and private matter, I have never felt comfortable enough to actually ask them the question directly. But Marwa's book has shed some light on at least some of the reasons, which seem to lie in Social Conditioning.

There were parts that I skipped over, but there were also parts that are really insightful.

This book is worth reading if you are interested in human behavior or are visiting Egypt and would like to know a little more about people you will encounter.

I would highly recommend the book to any non-Egyptian girl/woman/lady planning to get herself an Egyptian boyfriend or Egyptian husband. Most Egyptian men think and operate differently from "Western" men and its important for a female to know what she is getting herself into before she gets in too deep.

While the book may also be guilty of stereotyping men and women, there are a lot of grains of truth behind the characterisations.

The book could be classified as chick-lit, but there is a lot you can begin to understand about Egyptian society and how it operates through the eyes of a Single Independent Woman

Kim blogs on a variety of subjects on her many blogs : Egypt, Restaurant Reviews, her alma mater, Mumbai & other stuff Currently she is in Egypt among the pyramids, bedouin & camels & blogging furiously about them all.
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#1
Ledzius
October 6, 2009
11:52 AM

"I would highly recommend the book to any non-Egyptian girl/woman/lady planning to get herself an Egyptian boyfriend or Egyptian husband."

Unless she comes from another Islamic country, she would have to be a complete idiot to marry a guy from Egypt.

Isn't this the place where the men starve kidnapped kids in farms so that they can become camel jockeys and die in the process?

#2
temporal
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October 6, 2009
03:35 PM

led:


said like a true scholar

;)

#3
Kim
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October 6, 2009
04:18 PM

Thanks t,

you put it much better than I could :)

#4
smallsquirrel
October 6, 2009
06:31 PM

wow ledz, isn't hard to read thru your large intestine? :) :) :)

#5
commonsense
October 6, 2009
10:16 PM

Hey LED,

only once you showed a different, non-bigoted aspect of yourself when you wrote a nice article here on DC. Prior to that and after it, we cannot in good faith claim that you have LED us down...since you are who you are, bigoted as ever, despite your tiny alter-ego, struggling to break free from you. Please LED the kinder, gentler, non-bigoted side of you prevail, particularly since your usual comrade, the arch-bigot Kerty seems to have simply evaporated into thin air. Words no doubt wasted on you, but once in a while, you simply have to LED go...

#6
commonsense
October 6, 2009
10:20 PM

over the past three years since I have been on DC, I must admit i have tried to visualize what LEDZIUS might look like in real life. It would be too offensive to put it down in words, but i think Smallsquirrel is kinda close to it...

#7
Ruvy
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October 7, 2009
05:25 PM

Kim,

I found this article very interesting. Thank you for writing it here. Though I personally have no reason to pursue reading "The Poison Tree", there are women who might well be interested in it. One of these women is Dr. Phyllis Chesler. I am forwarding this link for you to read on what is apparently the latest regarding the burqa and disputes over it, "Egypt Wants to Ban the Burqa, France and Italy Too" from the Chesler Chronicles.

From the article:

In her last letter, Lazreg implores Muslim women to stop wearing the veil. “It is a symbol of inequality…it undermines faith… it objectifies women for (reasons of) political propaganda just like advertising in Western society does: one by covering, and the other by exposing womens’s bodies.” Lazreg also views the veil as harming Muslim women’s employment because “hijab symbolically inserts her into a virtual domestic space” and affects how she is viewed and treated at work. She re-defines “modesty” as related to behavior and character rather than to appearance and opposes “the straitjacketing of a woman’s body. Removing or refusing to veil does not mean that a Muslim woman has succumbed to the West. She writes:

“Not wearing the veil is not a victory of the ‘West,’ it is women’s victory over a custom that inflects their thinking about themselves as human beings. Wearing the veil is not a strike against anti-Muslim prejudice…As long as states mandate or prohibit veiling, as long as political movements advocate for it, as long as organized networks with books , lectures, DVDs, and course packets promote it far and wide, a woman can never be sure she takes up the veil freedly…Ultimately, there is no compelling justification fro veiling, not even faith…No one is entitled to turn the veil inton a political flag.”


As I have forwarded this article to you to peruse, I am also forwarding your article here as a comment to Dr. Chesler's article, as she may find it of immense interest in her own studies and advocacy for women and womens' rights.

All the best,
Ruvy

#8
Kim
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October 8, 2009
04:57 AM

Thank you Ruvy. Phyllis Chesler seems to have a balanced opinion on the veiling issue, but I'd like to read Marnia Lazreg whom she referenced, as I think she would have more insight and is closer to the issue personally.

The threat of the full niqab ban is currently filling the newspapers and blogging space in Egypt with arguments supporting both sides. This coupled with the sacking of Sheikh Saad al-Shethri in Saudi could be a precursor to some interesting developments in this region.

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