Desicritics Comments on Real Women Don't Cry

Comment by Ledzius

Fri, 18 Jul 2008 01:52:25 EDT

Dunno if the above is a true story or not, but a studious Tambram girl from Matunga actually having a boyfriend is a bit hard to swallow.

Comment by sanjeevani

Fri, 18 Jul 2008 01:32:35 EDT

Hey its a nice article , it took me back to my college years when i faced a situation of sorts related to a break up and people felt she just deserved it being so perfect...hahaha now i look back and laugh..the joke was on them.. :)

Comment by Aditi Nadkarni

Thu, 17 Jul 2008 23:48:04 EDT

I really liked this one...for a lot of reasons. I didn't like title. It doesn't fit the story. This is the kind of story one needs to read in college when there's that difficult, uneasy age and the wretched heartbreaks and heartaches that come with it :) Ledzius: a lot of good stories aren't good because they are unique or tragic but because they have something in them that one can relate to. Moreover, the most common of experiences can be made absorbing by the narration.

Comment by Ledzius

Thu, 17 Jul 2008 22:59:45 EDT

The whole point of the story is.. some guy broke up with her.. and she had to deal with it.. Is her experience that unique or tragic?

Comment by Ledzius

Thu, 17 Jul 2008 22:55:19 EDT

"may be the tears flow from the heart at times rather than the eyes" You women never cease to amaze me with your metaphors..

Comment by Anuradha Goyal

Thu, 17 Jul 2008 22:41:46 EDT

Extremely well told story, but I could not connect it with the title...because one the woman in the story did cry, and second real women too cry, may be the tears flow from the heart at times rather than the eyes.

Comment by Chaitanya S

Thu, 17 Jul 2008 13:58:24 EDT

Ritu: I used to run a modeling agency in Mumbai and came across "wannabes" from Delhi on a daily basis. Most carried the airs and attitude of a supermodel. Rather than insecurity, I felt it was their shield to protect themselves from being taken advantage of. After seeing Harman Baweja trying to ape Hritik in Love Story 2050 (yeah yeah I sat through it), I understand what people mean by "wannabe." :-)

Comment by Ritu

Thu, 17 Jul 2008 13:19:08 EDT

@ Chai: Interesting you bring this up because just the other day I had a debate with a friend who had the same objection - my making a (self-dergatory Ledzuis style :)) statement that most Delhite are wannabe. My answer is this : There is nothing wrong in wanting to aspire for ideals. The problem is as Deepti says, 'not being comfortable in your skin'. That is what wannabe really is. A person from the ecomonically lower-strata of society who makes it big will get far more respect if the continue to take pride in where they came from and then incorporate the new realities into their lives. However, a large number of wannabes are those that are running away from themselves and their realities. They can be quite trying in their zeal to be someone else. Also, as Dee mentions, it is not only about ecomonic strata. For e.g wannabes are also those heavily decked socialite aunties who sit during a classical music concert and nod their head vigourously at all the wrong times. They are wannabe connoisseurs.

Comment by Deepti Lamba

Thu, 17 Jul 2008 12:38:44 EDT

Thing is those who aren't comfortable in their own skins are hard to like. I know the type Ideasmith is talking about. I was snubbed plenty back in school by the 'intelligent sorts' who thought they were cats whiskers and the scrappers were to be ignored. I don't think economic status had much to do with their behavior. It was the straight A+ and fawning over by the teachers and family alike that made them obnoxious. Most of them have very lopsided personalities. A whiff of failure and they crumble.

Comment by Chaitanya S

Thu, 17 Jul 2008 09:57:54 EDT

"I never liked wannabes." Wannabe: One who imitates the behavior, customs, or dress of an admired person or group. (source: dictionary.com) Why are hard working people with ambitions to be a part of a higher social strata termed this in a derogatory sense ? Not everyone is fortunate enough to be born in an affluent household. Aspiring to be someone else is not a sin.

Comment by ravi

Thu, 17 Jul 2008 09:38:19 EDT

I mean to say, such statements do more harm than good.

Comment by ravi

Thu, 17 Jul 2008 09:35:23 EDT

Most probably he won't like the job of "P.A". But he wanted to enjoy a girl's company, to get that he sacrificed his self respect.Once the party is over, he nicely escaped.Boys like to talk with girls as many as possible. Many of them never go more than that. But the statements like "Real women don't cry" seems meaningless to me. In fact She already cried, when he told the truth.

Comment by Ruvy

Thu, 17 Jul 2008 06:48:34 EDT

Very well told tale, Ideasmith. It's not important if it's true or not. I well know how hard it is to make truth sound like more than a dry account from a fellow with green eyeshades. In addition, good fiction reads like truth, and this had the ring of truth to it in every respect. Kol hakav�d! One tiny error that perhaps an editor would be kind enough to correct for you. But none of us ever spoke him again. You need a preposition or some other connective word between spoke and him - "about", "to", "with", "of" - whatever you are desire to convey.... Best from the mountains of Samaria, Ruvy

Comment by smallsquirrel

Wed, 16 Jul 2008 19:51:33 EDT

lovely, Idea... I liked it! I think we've all gotten insight into people in ways we wish we never had. eye-opening and saddening too. good job.

Comment by Sudipta Chatterjee

Wed, 16 Jul 2008 19:45:27 EDT

That was very thought-provoking, Ideasmith! It would have qualified as a wonderful short story in my book, but rather causes me to stop and ponder because it is based on someone real.

Comment by Ravi Kulkarni

Wed, 16 Jul 2008 18:07:41 EDT

Very nice. Ravi

Comment by bd

Wed, 16 Jul 2008 17:43:21 EDT

beautiful

Comment by temporal

Wed, 16 Jul 2008 13:04:57 EDT

is: good one nothing wrong with a drop or two LINK

Comment by Ritu

Wed, 16 Jul 2008 11:06:20 EDT

@ ideasmith : Thank you for this article. I am terribly moved. "feel the rain on the face"... I shall remember that one for a long time. Thanks again! :)

Comment by Ayan Roy

Wed, 16 Jul 2008 10:53:28 EDT

Wow Ideasmith..that was really really absorbing. You are a really good storyteller. Love and peace, Ayan