Desicritics Comments on A Woman Among Men

Comment by Ruvy

Tue, 17 Jun 2008 08:56:14 EDT

'Approaching the bar' as a euphemism for "I'm here. Come get me!!" Actually, IdeaSmith, "approaching the bar" was meant literally in both of its normal senses - bellying up for a drink, and approaching the judge for a courtroom conference. Alcohol and law students seemed to go together in Minnesota, and I had never been a drinker. So, I'd nurse one or two beers through several hours of drinking, buy the required round for the bunch of us, and drive home sober, usually taking one or two less sober companions to their homes or to the campus. I was married, supposedly happily, (my ex was happy I was in law school and happy to be in the Midwest where she had gone to college; I was happy that if I graduated and passed the New York Bar, I could return the Big Apple and make a lot of moolah; I failed law school which was our sole reason for moving to Minnesota from New York; my ex was unhappy and so was I - the rest is history, as they say) and chasing young students in law school could've gotten me into a passel of trouble.

Comment by IdeaSmith

Tue, 17 Jun 2008 08:15:50 EDT

@ Deepti Lamba: Thengyu!! @ temporal: I am serious, deathly so. Want a lesson in juggling sometime? Muhahahahha... @ Deepa Krishnan: That's a lovely compliment, thank you very much! @ Ruvy: 'Approaching the bar' as a euphemism for "I'm here. Come get me!!" I guess? Yeah, we do that too though a tad differently.

Comment by commonsense

Mon, 16 Jun 2008 16:42:10 EDT

The Bait not Taken by Reuven Frost

Comment by commonsense

Mon, 16 Jun 2008 14:15:48 EDT

Ruvy #4: [Edited: Address the issue. Not the person. Refrain from baiting]

Comment by Ruvy

Mon, 16 Jun 2008 09:53:51 EDT

Nice piece, Ideasmith. Reminded me of when we "adjourned to the bar" on Friday afternoons after class in 1979-80. We were in the same age group you mention, a mix of men and women where sex was always an undercurrent, but where it never openly intruded on the good company. You learn rapidly to "approach the bar" even as a first year law student in Minnesota....

Comment by Deepa Krishnan

Sun, 15 Jun 2008 21:55:49 EDT

Very nice, ideasmith. I was almost 20-something again when I read it.

Comment by temporal

Sun, 15 Jun 2008 15:39:26 EDT

IS: this is: Filed under: Culture, Culture: City Life, Culture: Men, Culture: Relationships, Culture: Sex, Culture: Society, Culture: Women. the point? no humour or satire! so? a digression: you write of "juggling and playing each other"...this raises the bar...not in this context...which obviously is neutral and idle pass time...but...in more serious context...juggling and playing?...get serious girl ;)

Comment by Deepti Lamba

Sun, 15 Jun 2008 12:47:02 EDT

Good article Ideasmith, its one of those things that make you go hmmmm;)