OPINION

There Is A Lot We Don't Know About Our Bodies

April 07, 2008
Deepti Lamba

Being a woman is not easy and the twist lies in the fact that growing up we tend not to realize how complex and mysterious our bodies are. From the first time we stare at our expanding chests to the terror of dying due to bleeding (menstruation) we continue to be surprised well into adulthood.

The words - Why didn't anyone tell me about this? happens to most of us and it has less to do with 'Sex Education' and more with empowering us with the knowledge of what can and does happen to our bodies whether we are sexually active or not.

Urinary Tract Infections are the bane of our lives. If we happen to wear tight jeans regularly, drink less water, sit on dirty toilet seats or have sex with little lubrication, the chances of getting itchy, suffering burning sensations and worse still losing control of the bladder are quite high.

Worse still is Fungal Infection and no its not green like yeast on a bread but more like cottage cheese that smells like fish. If you are horrified reading this imagine the state of the woman who suffers it. It just ain't pleasant being a woman.

The charms of pregnancy simply don't culminate into contractions and lo behold the little bundle of joy. The shoving in of the fingers to check the dilation is for many far more painful than giving birth itself. And guess what? Most women, at least, Indian women are happily unaware of this fact till they are painfully fingered.

OB-GYN visits aren't just for infections or to monitor and deliver babies but also for Pap Smears.

Pap Smears are where we are cranked open and the vaginal walls are scrapped for cells. And if everything isn't normal we may find ourselves watching our inner muscles all magnified 'live' with the doctor giving detailed explanation as to what is what, what it does, where it is and what may be wrong.

And just when we think we know it all there are more surprises in store. Like the one I got today in one of the 'internal examinations' when I was told that my bladder had come down. Why? I was made to push very hard while delivering. Thinking back I remembered- Oh yeah, the doctor made me push my nine pound baby girl out. The pushing had been a monstrous effort.

I looked at my Gynecologist and said the same old line - I didn't know , she smiled at me and said - There is still more that you don't know.

Deepti Lamba is a writer, an editor for Desicritics. She can be found at Things That Bang
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#1
Deepa Krishnan
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April 7, 2008
01:33 PM

erghhhhhhhh (me pushing baby out).

#2
Deepti Lamba
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April 8, 2008
12:20 AM

Lol, no pain, no gain;)

#3
Aditi Nadkarni
April 8, 2008
01:10 AM

Good god those Pap smears! Arghh. I (should) know how things work and am still surprised when I get the diagnosis. I guess the surprise factor adheres to the real life experience and didactic theory dissolves into excruciating oblivion once that darned speculum makes its entry. :(

Nice one Dee.

#4
Deepti Lamba
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April 8, 2008
02:46 AM

Adi, I can never get used to the Paps!! The stuff we go through in the name of good health;)

#5
desigirl
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April 8, 2008
02:57 PM

Pap smears - UGH! I still remember the nurse blithely telling me, "just close your eyes and pretend you are lying on a beach somewhere" moments before sliding a cold thingummybob in me. *shudder*

#6
smallsquirrel
April 8, 2008
08:12 PM

why oh why do they keep those damn speculums (is that really the plural of speculum?) so FRIGGING COLD? Can they not be sterile AND warm?

and can they not do it without using what feels like a toilet brush to complete the transaction?

the only thing worse? an internal exam at 38 weeks pregnant. holy mother of god, that hurts. only time I cried. Nearly kicked the !#(&!(# out of the OB!

#7
Deepti Lamba
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April 9, 2008
12:15 AM

I've heard gory tales from women who were checked for breast cancer. Does it ever get easy for us?

#8
temporal
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April 9, 2008
12:25 AM

a *hug* for every one who commented here and two for you dee!

we (men) tend to be very anal retentive when it comes to such open discussions about our bodies

#9
Deepti Lamba
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April 9, 2008
12:29 AM

t, you are the only dude who has commented here thus far;)

#10
Ravi Kulkarni
April 9, 2008
07:58 AM

That's why god has made woman the tougher gender. We dudes are such chickens when it comes to pain and icky things.

In our family we have taken a wow to leave no surprises to our children. I am making sure my son knows facts of life, as and when he gets curious, and ditto with my little daughter. Hopefully she won't be surprised when she endures these insults.

Ravi

#11
Deepti Lamba
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April 9, 2008
10:22 AM

True enough Ravi;)

#12
AM
April 9, 2008
12:51 PM

There are 6 billion people on this planet....roughly 50 % of them women...I don't think most of them are complaining about bodily functions that happen to be perfectly NORMAL

#13
Deepti Lamba
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April 9, 2008
02:24 PM

And how do you know?

#14
smallsquirrel
April 9, 2008
08:30 PM

yo, AM, you get back to us when you get a uterus, dude... until then... maybe you can learn something.

normal and painful are two different things.

it is normal for older men to get prostate issues. doesn't make them fun.

#15
Seema
April 9, 2008
08:34 PM

AM: On the contrary, every woman is :)

#16
Deepti Lamba
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April 10, 2008
01:44 AM

Seema and SS you two 'crack' me up;)

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