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Comment by Sumanth

Thu, 12 Mar 2009 17:36:30 EDT

A man's suicide note is as valid as a woman's suicide note. As women's suicide notes are taken to be true always, the same privilege men must also get. According estimates 50% women are abusive towards children, husbands, elders and maid servants. Men who get abused in marriages and perceive threat from a distrusting society and police, become emotional wreaks and they can be dangerous to themselves and to others. We have been advocating that men need an outlet and there is a need to study male behaviour through men's studies so that different psychological conditions of men can be addressed or treated. It has been proved in western countries that bidirectional domestic violence has resulted in severe battering. A california court has ruled that keeping men out of domestic violence welfare program is a mistake. It is time to wake up in stead of advocating further cornering of men by creating biases. No one wants to kill and die. It is easy to dismiss this by claiming a person as "madman". That is no way to address the root of the problem. It is too simplistic to attribute these deaths to "male dominated" society, when 3 times more men compared to women die due to suicides, murders and accidents. The men are as helpless as women in this whole system. To make the matters worse, there are demands for respect and understanding from parents or both sides, spouses, relatives and on top of that the work hard party hard mentality. A time comes when a person says, just leave me alone. That can be interpreted as uncaring behaviour and the person is further coerced. Things are bound to break down one day or other.

Comment by Vivek

Thu, 12 Mar 2009 13:32:10 EDT

I read this matter i know so many extra marital Affair will happen every day becouse of Blind Faith about Marriage system of India still india n Indian is Backword thinker lot of blind Faith God Makes Marriage in haven, All the Men want women seal Pack of her Sexual Organ,Fack Culture system,if Culture is real thing in the world i Like American Culture bcoz American Culture Never Break i never read n listen on Tv Any American Political Party said Their Culture is going to damage.for Women use Club and Pub and xtra marital Affair,Sexual Affair.

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Comment by Aaman Lamba

Sun, 6 Apr 2008 11:05:27 EDT

HS, please accept our deepest condolences for your tragic loss and let us know if Desicritics can support your commendable initiative in any way. We tried in our small way to keep the faith for her, despite contrary comments.

Comment by HS

Sun, 6 Apr 2008 05:18:29 EDT

A TRIBUTE TO RINKU SACHDEV Slowly the reality is sinking in our heads that our beloved Rinku is no more and we will never be able to see her again. We will never hear her laughter any more. She was so full of life that she spread cheers all around her. She loved to dance and was always the first person to be a charm of any party. We could have never imagined in our wildest dreams that Rinku's life would be cut-off so abruptly. She was cold bloodedly murdered by her husband Amit Budhiraja on 22nd March 2008 in Bangalore, not giving her any chance to defend herself. Adding insult to the injuries the news channels in the electronic media cooked up stories with masala based on suicide note (not necessarily based on facts) of Amit which was well planned but based on suspicion and imagination of an insane person having an evil mind. The electronic media only helped Amit in achieving his goal of maligning the name of our daughter Rinku who did not deserve this rubbish at all. If Rinku had been alive and this incidence would have happened to any one known to her, she would have gone all out to fight these channels and made them apologize to the public. She was the kind of person who would not tolerate any injustice to anyone. This is the least we are now expecting from the media to put forward the facts of the case. Otherwise people will loose faith in those channels. To restore its credibility we appeal to the media who telecasted those stories to come forward and give true version of the case. To give a fitting Tribute to our beloved daughter Rinku, we have decided to establish "RINKU SACHDEV FOUNDATION" a charity organization which will help all women who are falling prey to this male dominated society, who need help and guidance to save their lives. We would like to seek the help of Psychiatrists, Marriage counselors and other social workers to come forward and be part of this foundation. This will be a real Tribute to our dear daughter Rinku. We would not like any more Rinkus to die in the hands of monsters. Rinku, we all love you very much and you will always remain in our memories. Your spirit will never die and will always inspire us to make this world much better to live. We take this opportunity to thank all those who stood by us in this time of crisis, fully supported her for her values and ridiculed her character assassination because they knew what was right and what was wrong. Parents of Rinku Sachdev

Comment by Vn

Sat, 5 Apr 2008 22:24:37 EDT

#138 , first Para is very true, Fully agree with Preethi. Wish the Indian feminists understand that marriage saving can be done in different ways. If there is true love, then marriage will be saved, thats how it has been. #138 second para, as usual what we expect from DC, skewed views without taking holistic views. Even if we assume all Indian failed marriages which turn violent are due to men, I beg to ask the question , what have the friends/family/media/society done in the aftermath to recognize the society ills. Not one national leader has criticized and proposed a recipe. Not one member of NCW knows the solution. Nobody is against the 21st century women. We want Indian women to be far far ahead of all Indian men. Not even Sonia Gandhi knows the solution. She does not care infact. Why is this issue not a national issue and if the country wants it can try to stop it. where are the solutions? a) Farmer suicides, Army Jawans suicides , can they all be tagged as economic issues, by announcing a package can you stop it? b)Where is the social security for women and men today? Does a sister get all property rights from her parents and brothers, why does she need to depend on her husband? c) Why is the Indian woman need to assail the character of her hsuband while seeking divorce. d) why does divorce procedures in India take 2-7 years? e) Why are widows in India second class citizens, is it that being married only then you achieve nirvana? f) why are girls after puberty not allowed in temples ? why don't we have female priests in hindu religion? g) why does the society not step in to amicably resolve a marriage, why does society leave it to the last minute? The problem is not one dimensional, it is multi-dimesnional and needs a counntrywide strategy. The cowards of Indian politics don't dare to question the fabric of Indian society.

Comment by Man Singh

Sat, 5 Apr 2008 17:57:59 EDT

Preeti #138 It si not only women, there are a number of man also suffering in abusive marraiges only for the sake of for the sake of our tradition, our culture and a desire to save their marriage they put their precious life at risk, they put their safety at risk every single second. I have seen many families where highly educated guy has been married to a very low IQ girl and 90% of energy of these guys is being spent only in making these women understand how things really work. Its pretty normal and doesn'nt mean that somebody should murder another human being only due to this incompatibility. You won'nt belive My dad and my Mom are almost 100% opposite nature. My mom is short , my dad is tall. My mom is illetral my dad is 8th grade pass. My mom is beutiful and deep thinker while my dad is agressive and quick decision maker. But they are good human beings. they fight on issues and some time dun speak to each other even for years. But continue their respective duties. They produced 7 children and made all of them at least graduate. Some Scinec some engineering some arts and one even in Agriculture. They never threaten each other to kill or run away. They never bring their differences in open. When my dad wanst food while in `no conversation with mom' he talks to her indirectly and says `kids bring food fro me' though ni kids are around. belive me Preeti Man equally suffer for the sake of family. If my Mom might have been a feminsist she definitely might not be able to shape the career of 7 kids and so is true to my Dad. Culture and traditions bring humanity in `animal humans' and can not be blamed for misery of marraiges. It is Lust, anger, greed and False Ego the five famous enemies of humanity that cause trouble. It is these 5 enemies that infect man and women alike and create troble. these five enemies for the foundation of Adharma. So please blame this adharma and not tradition and culture for marriage troubles. It is lack of culture religion and traditions that creates troble and not their presence.

Comment by Preeti

Sat, 5 Apr 2008 17:28:27 EDT

So many women live in abusive marriages for a long time and continue living. For the sake of our tradition, our culture and a desire to save their marriage they put their precious life at risk, they put their safety at risk every single second. They live on the edge every single day. And one day it goes against them and that's the catastrophic end to their life and many a times in the most violent sadistic circumstances. And worst, even after their brutal murder, they are not spared. And still worst, Rinku's family/friends have to come out to defend her and offer explanations, when they need to be left alone to deal with their tragic grief of a loss of their beloved daughter. I don't know what would be more heartrending for her family, to loose their daughter forever at such a young age or to deal with the aftermath of her character assassination carried out by a bunch of violent insane assholes that have a track record of being felons.

Comment by Preeti

Sat, 5 Apr 2008 14:39:36 EDT

Ankush, We know that Rinku was an ill-fated victim at the hands of a monster, an insecured lunatic man. Her desire to try and to do everything to save her marriage, to cook for him until the last day, to care for him, regrettably cost her her own life. When I heard about the brutal murder of Rinku, my heart sank and even though I have never met her or seen her, I feel terrible about her painful end. Please understand and be assured that the allegations made about her and the spiteful people who support the vile imagination of Amit are nothing but another Amit in the making or are another Amit themselves. It is alarming that there are so many , several of these Amits out there living in the society amongst us just waiting to get another Rinku. The rest of us know better and believe that Rinku was a victim of a psychotic obsessive egoistic man. She did not deserve this end. No one deserves this end.

Comment by FF

Sat, 5 Apr 2008 03:49:41 EDT

Deepti, Let us not talk about rights of and expectations from a first class citizen. You can talk of rights of husbands only when you(Govt and society) are not treating them as second class citizens.

Comment by Vn

Sat, 5 Apr 2008 01:12:09 EDT

It is sad to hear this. Why did you leave her with that monster? why did you have that blind trust? There were so many instances a) He had slapped her. b) He has left her in a party alone c) She has come all the way to Muscat to tell her parents d) They even sought the help of the marriage counseller. e) Daily fights f) Agreement of divorce as well. "After all when you have lived with someone for one and a half years and that too someone you have loved, there is a bond that forms that can't go just because of disagreements. I know if I have decided to get out, I should do it soon but I've been dragging it and am still confused about my decision as I can't make myself hate him. I still care about him" I still think you guys must have told her to get out from there as such things only get downhill. She was no doubt confused. At such instances, it is best to take her/him out from staying together if one of them is instable. I also know it is difficult for her as she had given up her job and was in a new city. It also baffles me that her request to Amit to move out of their current house to Sarjapur house was not heeded by him especially when he had decided to take up a job overseas. my views only and thanks Ankush for sharing the real story. Yes, Amit was a coward. Wish people don't resort to suicide and killing.

Comment by Deepti Lamba

Sat, 5 Apr 2008 00:32:03 EDT

Ankush, I am deeply sorry for your loss and like many others believe that Rinku was the victim of a mad mind. FF, even if there was the threat of Dowry law Amit, your beloved hero, did not have the right to take Rinku's life. He was a murderer and a coward. Nothing excuses his behavior no matter how many times you shout it out here on Desicritics or in the world.

Comment by FF

Fri, 4 Apr 2008 19:37:09 EDT

I understand that Amit and Rinku were not going fine between them. I also understand every one of your argument that adultery(perceived or actual) can never be any justification for murder. However, when you said And also stop this stupidity of saying we would have gone after the Dowry allegation, LET ME BE VERY CLEAR ON THIS we would not have got our daughter/ sister married to a family asking dowry Do you think dowry allegations are ever used against persons who have taken dowry? No, it is rarely the case and I would rather say it is almost never used that way. Dowry allegations are mere tools used almost always to blackmail or threaten men and families for vested or personal interests. Today Every person on or off the road knows about harassment caused by dowry laws. My question to you: Are you certain that Rinku(a 21st century independent woman) did not threaten him with using harassment laws?

Comment by Ankush

Fri, 4 Apr 2008 15:20:55 EDT

A lot has been written in Indian newspapers, some of which, too disgusting and painful to comprehend. I will start my discussion with sharing the facts of Rinkus life written by her close friend from Bangalore (Being anonymous was this individuals choice and I respect it, I cannot however thank this individual enough for being there for Rinku in her time of need). Also to all reading this please ask yourself this question IS PERCEIVED INFEDILITY ANY JUSTIFICATION FOR MURDER. FOR THAT MATTER DOES ANYTHING JUSTIFY MURDER. We gave our Daughter/ Sister to this individual to build a life with and take care of, we believed in his integrity, his promise to be by her side at all times. If we had any inclination of his demonic mind we could have rather had her be by our side and not married in the first place. I can't believe me and dad took her hand and handed it to this monster. And also stop this stupidity of saying we would have gone after the Dowry allegation, LET ME BE VERY CLEAR ON THIS we would not have got our daughter/ sister married to a family asking dowry. That's insulting in today's day an age. Trust me if some one was to ask our family for dowry we would KICK BUTT, please don't insult us, let alone give our daughter to such a family. Also I cant believe that Amit's Sister (Nidhi) is stating that she had no idea of these issues when RINKU CALLED HER UP COUPLE OF WEEKS ago asking for help. Anyways lets start with this first, and if I see this going in the way of being insulting or I receive stupid comments, I guess its the last you are hearing from me and the Family. I do also want to point out that we plan to do something social about women who are living a married life similar to that of Rinku and suffering. So lets start with this, and please be polite in your questions as this is my Dear Beloved Sister you will be talking about, getting nasty with someone is an easy trait, being polite is tough, so tread the road of being humble and polite with your questions. The letter begins: XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX Rinku as I knew her I met Rinku around June last year. We started meeting up on a regular basis and soon became very close friends. Meeting each other on a more or less daily basis we soon started confiding everything about our lives in each other. She had already started to have problems in her marriage with Amit by then. Rinku was beautiful, confident, an out and out extrovert and doing excellently in her career. She was a warm, vivacious and ever optimistic person, very caring and affectionate by nature. Amit was an introvert, bordering on being chauvinistic and egoistical by nature. They never had major fights but had minor disagreements on a regular basis, mostly sparked by their completely contrasting personalities. Rinku being a strong independent woman had her viewpoint about things which irked him because he probably was hoping for a wife who while being great arm candy when he socialized would be more submissive at home and accept his decisions on house, car and other decisions of everyday life etc. without questioning him or giving her opinion on it. It was one day when she had taken him with her to her official party that they ended up disagreeing on something and he left her stranded at the party late in the night and went off in their car, refusing to take her home with him. It was at this time that she was crying and wondering what to do next that her colleague came forward and offered to drop her home. In her state of distress she confided in him about her marital problems and the fact that all was not well with her marriage. Since that day he became her friend and confidant in office, who was there to give her a shoulder to cry on when things went wrong which was happening on a more or less regular basis. Having come to Bangalore after her marriage, she had no close friends in the city who she could confide in and she needed to speak to someone to clear her mind and decide how to take things forward. Till her last day, he remained that friend and confidant. There NEVER was a question of him being anything else. The rapport they shared was one of strong friendship and sympathy for her plight. His parents were any case looking out for a suitable match for him and he was supposed to get married by July this year. She would talk to him about her troubles and he in turn would advise her and also tell her all about the prospective marriage candidates he was being shown and ask her opinion on them, whether they sounded promising and should he go ahead and say yes to any. If that fight had not taken place in front of her colleague, she would never have started confiding in him in the first place. On Amit's birthday, Rinku planned flowers, cake and gifts at midnight and took him to out to dinner the next day. Ten minutes before midnight on her birthday he got into an argument with her about her dressing style. He criticized her wardrobe very rudely and then refused to apologise or make up with her when she started crying. They went o bed fighting and he did not plan anything for her the next morning either. After her work in the evening, she begged him to forget the fight and join her for dinner at a restaurant. He came in a very aloof manner and fought with her again while leaving the restaurant. Rinku always believed in talking things out in case of an argument and moving on from there whereas Amit would just stop talking for several days in a row. This made her very unhappy. She would always be the first person to go ahead and make up with him after a fight even when she wasn't at fault as she believed that with just two people living in a house, it was extremely unpleasant to live together day after day without talking. During one such fight, Amit got a phone call. It was from some friend he had not heard from in sometime. He started talking to him ignoring Rinku who was in the middle of a heated discussion with him. When she asked him to at least resolve matters with her first without callously moving on to other things he got upset that his friend might have overheard and came forward and slapped her across her face. He NEVER apologized for that act either then or later. During their numerous fights, NEVER did he bring up his suspicions of an extramarital affair at any point of time. Being basically of a suspicious and possessive nature, he sometimes used to check Rinku's messages behind her back. She had come to realize this and had told him that if any point he wanted to know who she was communicating with, he just had to ask her. She requested him to not go behind her back but see her cell if he needed to in front of her. She wanted to be treated with the same trust and space she gave him. Similarly, one day she mentioned how Amit was aware of all her investments, bank accounts etc. but had never told her about his. He found Rinku inquisitive when she asked such questions but all Rinku wanted was an open and honest marriage based on communication and trust. In December last year they went to Mumbai to visit Rinku's parents. Though they had planned this trip several months in advance, Amit sulked about going as he wanted to go to Delhi to his parents (which they were doing in January anyways). While there, he walked out from the room rudely once when Rinku's mother was talking to him, slamming the door behind him just because he was in a bad mood. He also made last minute plans to meet his friends there without telling Rinku who he was meeting and how long he would be out, even when he knew that she had made plans for the two of them with her parents and relatives for that same time. One of Rinku's biggest grievances with him was that he did not give her parents and family the same kind of respect and understanding that he wanted her to show his parents and this was always a point of conflict between them. Two days after returning to Bangalore, he suddenly stopped talking to her altogether though they hadn't fought recently. After five days of silence with her pleading with him everyday during this time to tell her what was wrong, he said that he was not sure and he had to figure out some things first. He never gave his reasons even later when things went back to normal gradually and she was left wondering about his sudden spurts of silence. Another point of conflict was that he did not give importance to her career and expected her to move with him out of Bangalore at the drop of a hat if he changed jobs; without even consulting her first about it. She was doing very well in her job and expected his support as far as her career went as she was sharing all household and other expenses with him including those for the new flat they had bought and furnished together. Early February she decided to see a marriage counselor as a last resort to save her marriage as she had become completely drained from their daily fights about minor everyday things always followed by days of silence from his side. She was hoping that at least in front of the counselor he would open up enough to tell her his issues with her so they could talk things out. I know for a fact that at the marriage counselor's, different issues mentioned above were brought forth by him but there was not even a passing mention of him suspecting an extramarital affair. If it was preying on his mind to the point that he murdered her for it, how is it that he did not feel the need to even mention it once in front of the counselor? They visited the counselor on a Saturday evening. They were then asked to come back the next weekend and in the meantime advised to go out for lunches, dinners, movies etc. where they could just hang out and have fun without discussing any of their differences. Saturday he didn't speak to her, neither on Sunday even though she suggested several trips outside. Sunday night he invited her to the bedroom and when she refused on grounds of the fact that if there was no emotional bond between them then she couldn't resort to physical intimacy, he got extremely upset and asked for a divorce. By then she had become completely disillusioned as she felt that her requirement in his life was not for companionship but for cooking and giving him company in bed and thus readily agreed. The next day she went to the Gurudwara after work and silently cried there for everything that had gone wrong. When she went home that night, he told her that he had behaved impulsively the previous night and asked her to reconsider the divorce. She wanted to save the marriage if possible and agreed. She had by then told her parents about her marital problems and decided to go for a few days to them to personally let them know that she was planning to work on it as she knew how worried they would be about her. During the 5 days she was there, Amit neither called nor messaged though he knew that she had gone through problems at the airport with her visa etc. She had a difficult time trying to get in touch with him and he finally responded to her calls. They spoke only twice during her time there. She came back to Bangalore with the intention of working on her marriage but though he had promised to be more communicative and make an effort from his side too, within few weeks she realized that they were back to their daily arguments and there wasn't much change in his attitude. She carried on nevertheless till about 2 weeks before her death when she finally realized that the best thing for them both would be to move on instead of compromising on their happiness on a daily basis. She told him that it would be best to separate and he agreed. Amit told her that he was looking at job options overseas and would probably move abroad in a few months time. It was then that she requested him to move out of their present house to their Sarjapur flat as it would be closer to his workplace. She wanted to continue living there as being fairly new to the city and having to stay alone thereon she wanted to be in a locality she had become familiar with and also as she knew she could go to the landlord in times of trouble as she was on very good terms with his family and they were extremely helpful people. One of the things she mentioned 3 days before her death was 'After all when you have lived with someone for one and a half years and that too someone you have loved, there is a bond that forms that can't go just because of disagreements. I know if I have decided to get out, I should do it soon but I've been dragging it and am still confused about my decision as I can't make myself hate him. I still care about him..." Till he decided to move out of that house, she also continued staying with him as she felt that with both of them working, they could discuss how to take the divorce forward only when they met in the evenings. At the same time, she said that since she had to cook dinner for herself anyways, she could also take care of his food at least as long as they were still living together as it would be inconvenient for him to eat out everyday. There was NEVER any question of an affair and she trusted him blindly and so continued living with him even after they had decided to separate. He took advantage of this blind trust and made her pay with her life for something she didn't ever do. Amit not only cold bloodedly killed her but also maligned her even in death!!! As one of her closest friends, I want to make it clear to everyone that Rinku cared about Amit till the last day. He was the ONLY man she loved. Being an independent woman of the 21st century, she decided to opt out of a bad marriage but ONLY because they were not getting along together... NOT FOR ANY OTHER REASON!!!! ***