Another Case of a Girl Refusing Marriage Because of Dowry

October 28, 2007

Why does dowry still exist? There is an increasing trend towards demonizing dowry seekers in the media, in papers, and through demonstrations. One would have expected that, by now, dowry seekers would have realized that demanding dowry is a double edged sword. No matter how attractive, handsome, rich, educated, high-earning your son is, if you push the bride's family beyond a certain point, there exists the possibility of the police and media getting called, and then you are really in deep trouble. Because of the deep prevalence of dowry in society, the laws against dowry are pretty harsh, with the intention of seeking to level the balance of power (and many would say, have given the girl's side much higher power through a slant in the law requiring the groom's side to prove their innocence).

And yet people don't learn. Here is an Indian family from the US that apparently demanded dowry, and when the bride's family refused, there was an altercation, leading to the arrest of the groom. Now, it is very much possible that the groom's side was being very demanding, and hence at some point, the police was called and once the magic words of dowry are uttered, things would spin out of control for the boy and his family. It is also possible that there was some misunderstanding, and based on that, dowry laws were invoked giving a major power point for the bride's family.

PATIALA: Taking a bold step, a doctor girl here on Friday refused to marry an NRI who was demanding dowry. Not only this, her family members and relatives taught them a lesson by handing them over to the police.
Gurbachan Singh (father of the bride) told TOI that last night they went to village Kaddon (groom's village), Doraha, with the request that they can't fulfil their demand overnight, but they refused to talk. "Later, we received a message saying that the marriage is still on. We were under an impression that they had given up the demand," he said. SP (city) Mandeep Singh Sidhu said a case has been registered against Gurpreet Singh, his father Bhajan Singh and mother Harjit Kaur under Dowry Act.

The true and complete facts of the case will come out after investigation, but it is very much possible that dowry demands were made. And when the girl is also well-qualified, the demand for dowry seems to almost like a slap in the face to the girl; no matter how good you are, we are the boy's side and you should pay for the privilege of getting such a good boy. It is time that such demands be dropped, and the menace of dowry begone.

There, I made a statement like this, but does anyone believe that a social ill such as dowry will vanish anytime soon?

Ashish is a blogger who got bit by the blogging charm a few months back, and it has hit him good. He is able to express himself through his blogs. Currently working with a software manufacturing company in NCR, India. Did a BE and then an MBA and has been working for around 9 years now. Is pretty passionate about current affairs, but did not have a vehicle to express his opinions till now. I primarily blog at Modern Indian Man, also write about Delhi, Tech News, and Photos 1 & 2
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Another Case of a Girl Refusing Marriage Because of Dowry


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October 28, 2007
01:45 PM

Dear Sir,
Dowry as such is not the problem but the "Concept" of it has been made offending. Dowry per se was what the father gave his daughter a share out of the propery of the family for her survival if anything happens to her at any stage. It was never demanded.
Over the years it had become a fashion to give too much to the bridegrooms who were "Qualified". On the advent of education the regular way of life was destroyed or in a sense overtaken by "Educational Qualifications" as one had to be "Educated" to be accepted in "High British Society".
This meant that "Education" become a rare commodity, and just like something precious the highest bidder got the priciest doll available in the market.
Today in this world where everything is now called "Education" and even the "Dolls" have become educated, it has become a bad word and we are having this problem.
When the craze for "Phoren" and "Power" in its sickest sense starts waning the concept of Dowry will go back to its original roots.

December 26, 2007
07:01 AM

Very useful news on dowry problem. Read and know more on dowry menace:

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