Desicritics Comments on The 'M' Word

Comment by Sakshi

Tue, 21 Feb 2006 23:05:53 EST

Thank you all for your comments. The reason why I wrote this post is cause it got me thinking about many other young women in similar situations or worse ones...I consider myself safe, since my family has never pressured me. But not all are that lucky !!!

Comment by Aaman

Tue, 21 Feb 2006 17:39:30 EST

I've sent a mail to the Desicritics group, and am putting up a post - ABC is looking to do a program on 'arranged marriages' in the South Asian community in the US, and is looking for participants - not to get married, but for the program:)

Comment by temporal

Tue, 21 Feb 2006 17:16:03 EST

Anil: There goes my hopes of ever getting married take heart...you'd do fine under the updated version straight from Machiavelli's New Alphabet Soup A: Accessibility B: Brevity C: Cheerfulness D: Disarming E: Eclectic F: Forlorn The last one ignites motherhood instincts...ah well...when all else fails;) rgds. t

Comment by deepti lamba

Tue, 21 Feb 2006 17:13:29 EST

Anil: Fitness : Join a gymn Education :Get a 'paid' degree Domestic : Family? Deny their existence Character: Read Character For Dummies Bank Balance : Become a Ghar jamie Abilities: Who cares ? You married a filthy rich ugly duckling for her money There is a solution to every problem ;)

Comment by Queer

Tue, 21 Feb 2006 17:09:40 EST

I know exactly how you feel. It is unnerving.

Comment by Anil

Tue, 21 Feb 2006 17:01:56 EST

* A - Abilities ( basically meaning profession/business, cooking, etc.) * B - Bank Balance (money factor, society standing) * C - Character (attitude, behavior, etc.) * D - Domestic (family) * E- Education * F - Fitness (physical appearance)

There goes my hopes of ever getting married :(

Comment by solemn

Tue, 21 Feb 2006 14:12:11 EST

I think you're feeling uncomfortable because you're going for an 'arranged' marriage, that's why the new house, new identity and all that. Maybe. I really don't know about all this.

Comment by DrPolitics

Tue, 21 Feb 2006 13:30:06 EST

Hey guys, if your object is marriage, better start loving your subject! Well done, great post Sakshi :)

Comment by deepti lamba

Tue, 21 Feb 2006 12:59:39 EST

Before marriage keep both eyes open, after marriage close one eye Well written post Sakshi :)

Comment by Sakshi

Tue, 21 Feb 2006 12:41:50 EST

Temporal - Thanks a ton for the 'Tricycle' advise. I am surely it will come handy. :)

Comment by temporal

Tue, 21 Feb 2006 11:55:05 EST

Sakshi: i did a double take...for a moment i thought who could have written about my M:)...heheh it is still early in the day here! time to introduce my tricycle to you (and the readers here) matrimonial bliss: a tricycle ride you would do well in (matrimonial) life if you always consider yourself as one of the two rear wheels. both of the rear wheels must move in the same direction and speed to reach their short and long term goals with least detours. expect the unexpected: for the third wheel is Fate. Fate needs to be coaxed, bullied, nurtured, ignored, braved...keep the smile on the face while maneuvering Fate.