http://desicritics.org/ Superior South Asian bloggers on Culture, Media, Politics, Sport, Business, and Technology. en Copyright 2006 by the authors Thu, 2 Feb 2006 01:47:13 EST http://backend.userland.com/rss BC custom software http://desicritics.org/2006/02/01/085751.php#comment-695 That is nice. It reminds me of how I was raised back home in Indonesia, when we had lots of relatives and friends to get along with. More often marriage is not only between a man and a woman, but rather between two families. Homesick... 695@desicritics.org Thu, 2 Feb 2006 01:47:13 EST http://desicritics.org/2006/02/01/085751.php#comment-691 Hi Deepti, Rohan and Ayu, thank you all for your comments. Deepti, good for you! I think we are that much stronger for going through those tribulations on our own. Baptism by fire, as they say. Good luck with everything. Rohan, thank you for sharing that. It really helps to hear from families who've "made it", so to speak. Your parents must be really lucky to have a child who expresses these sentiments. Ayu, what a wonderful combination of cultures! Our son speaks English mainly, but that is what we intended because we really wanted him to think, sleep and dream English (on other words, we did not want it to be a learned language for him). Because we live in India now, he's picking up Hindi (from movies and songs and ads) and Kannada (from the lady who helps us around the house). He can distinguish between Tamil, Telugu and Kannada as well. All this just to say that kids soak up what they're exposed to. Grandparents also play a big role in this since they tend to talk to kids in their native language. 691@desicritics.org Thu, 2 Feb 2006 00:50:15 EST http://desicritics.org/2006/02/01/085751.php#comment-642 I haven't had the luck to be a mother but I'd need to prepare anyway. I'm Indonesian and my husband is Hungarian--we speak mostly in English since we don't understand each other's language. I wonder what language our kids will learn first...thank you for the well put article. 642@desicritics.org Wed, 1 Feb 2006 15:17:15 EST http://desicritics.org/2006/02/01/085751.php#comment-621 Good article... I've been one of those lucky children with the benefit of parents who were able to balance the different cultures, though this in the middle-east not the States, and hope you're succesful as well... 621@desicritics.org Wed, 1 Feb 2006 11:39:01 EST http://desicritics.org/2006/02/01/085751.php#comment-610 Sujatha, my experiences mirror yours. It isnt bring up kids away from family and friends. When my first child was born my mon stayed with us for only a month. Dr Sear's books saw me through a lot of infant trials and tribulations. 610@desicritics.org Wed, 1 Feb 2006 10:48:37 EST